Our Journey

 

 

 

 


Today I’d like to talk to you a little bit about the journey my husband and I are on. Our journey hasn’t taken us to far off lands ….. It has gone in an entirely different direction and changed our lives forever.

I was diagnosed with MS in 1988. I was in a bad marriage and my husband couldn’t deal with the disease so I was on my own trying to raise two young children and deal with a chronic debilitating illness.

Life was challenging. In the early years I went through several exacerbations (attacks), most requiring hospitalization. MS affected my walking, my vision, my hands and much more. I had two choices: to wallow in self-pity (sit and soak) or walk the path in front of me, knowing that God is with me.

Those of us that carry the weight of this disease, as well as other chronic diseases….need to focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do. Look at what is important in your life and look to WHO is important. God knows where we are. He gives us the grace we need each day – not before, but at the point you need it most. You can’t borrow God’s grace, but you can walk in it!

When Emery and I met in 2001, I knew that we were meant to be together. We both had MS and we had both been in failed marriages to “normal” people. This time it would be different, because since we were both dealing with the same obstacles, we understood each others needs. We worked very hard to make our dream of being married a reality. Our faith is an integral part of our lives – we are truly blessed.

In the eyes of the world, we are not successful: we are “disabled”. We don’t have careers and don’t own a home. We live on meager disability pensions, yet in our eyes, we have it all. Life is full of challenges, no matter what the circumstances. Living with MS is not easy, but we support each other in every way. We understand each other’s needs since we are both dealing with the same obstacles. We have learned from past experiences not to “sweat the small stuff” but to work together. We are able to accomplish many things together. At this point, Emery has progressed to the point that he is in a power chair and I have become his caregiver as well as his wife.

Our journey hasn’t been easy, but God is with us, holding our hands, every step of the way.  We choose to travel on together, with hope in our hearts.  God gave me a verse early on in my illness, and I still cling to it today:

“The eternal God is thy refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms.”
Deuteronomy 33:27.

We just celebrated our 15th Wedding Anniversary and are happier than we ever have been!
We choose to be happy! Our lives are definitely 
challenging, but we are determined to live life to the fullest.

We may have MS, but it doesn’t have us!

If you would like to learn more about MS, please use the link below:

What is Multiple Sclerosis?

I hope you have been encouraged by our story. No matter what you are going through, there is hope!

I hope you enjoyed reading this article.
Be sure to check out another of my articles:  Should Christians Have a Role in Politics??

 

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About Gail Pinder

I was born in New Jersey and raised in a small town in Pennsylvania. I have lived in many places – Texas, Arkansas, Delaware and finally Michigan. Several years ago, I met a wonderful man – a Vietnam Navy vet who shares my love of God and Country! We have been happily married for more than 15 years. I have two children of my own and Emery has two children. We have four wonderful grandchildren. Emery and I both have Multiple Sclerosis. He is now in a powerchair and I am his caregiver. Life is somewhat challenging, but we do the best we can. We tell everyone that “We have MS, but it doesn’t have us!” I have always loved to write and my dream was to becoming a “writer”. PICC gave me a window to my dream and an opportunity to share my thoughts with others. Our faith is strong and I don’t know where we would be without it. We are determined to spread a little sunshine in a darkened world. I've been married to my wonderful husband for 14 years. I have two children of my own and Emery has two children. We have four grandchildren. My husband and I both have MS and I am his caregiver. We tell everyone that "we have MS but it doesn't have us!"